Your guidance really helped me unlock versions of myself I couldn’t even imagine existed. I was able to find my dream girl and bring her into my life.
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Who we are
We build confident men who build happy relationships.
We’re Dating Decoded. Through online coaching we teach men confidence, natural flirting and how to choose the right person. Apply and find out where to start.
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Testimonials
Trusted by men who wanted real change
More than 150 men have trained with us. Here is what changed for a few of them.
ValentinosMentoring student
A big applause to you! The girl I approached in the mall and I took our first holiday together, and we’ve been happily with each other for 3 months now. “Thank you” is not enough!
Mentoring student
Conversations come easier
How a student stopped going quiet in conversations
- Before
- He didn’t know what to say to people he’d just met
- Now
- He goes out with friends without constantly wondering what others think
“I just had a good time. Maybe that’s nothing big for some people, but for me it really means a lot.”
A number from the bar
How a student approached a girl in a bar on his own
- Before
- Stress about approaching and a lack of confidence
- Now
- A normal conversation, a good time, and her number at the end
“A few months ago I wouldn’t even have considered it.”
Change in every area
How coaching changed more than dating
- Before
- Plenty of doubts at the start
- Now
- More confident and more decisive in every area of life
“If you need a real ally, Ilias is someone I recommend without hesitation.”
A new relationship
One more message from a student
Results
Coaching that brings real results
Most men put time and energy into dating without seeing any change. At Dating Decoded we work on what actually decides the outcome: your confidence, the way you hold a conversation, and how you read the other person.
- Confidence you feel in a bar, on a date and at work, not just in theory
- Natural flirting instead of rehearsed lines and manipulation
How we work
The Dating Decoded method
A complete approach that brings lasting change.
Confidence with a foundation
Rebuild it after disappointment, so the next rejection doesn’t tell you what you’re worth. We work on what you see in yourself, not on building a mask.
Natural flirting and reading signals
Learn to hold a conversation, flirt without rehearsed lines, and recognise what the other person is really showing you.
A happy relationship with the right person
Recognise the right person and build a relationship based on trust, not control.
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Fill in the application
Answer the questions about you and your goals, and leave your phone number. It takes a few minutes.
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We look at your situation
We read every application and look at where you are now and what you want to change.
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We call you
If we believe we can help you, we’ll call you. The call is free: we talk through your situation and tell you where to start.
About us
Understand attraction. Build real confidence. Create relationships that last.
Who we are
Dating Decoded teaches men the confidence, social intelligence and relationship skills behind meaningful, lasting partnerships. We do it entirely online, through coaching programmes and daily content.
Our method draws on evolutionary psychology, human biology and interpersonal psychology, translated into practical training: how attraction works, how to communicate, how to understand a woman’s perspective, and how a healthy relationship is built and kept.
Our mission
Lasting relationships start with the man you become. We help men become confident, socially intelligent and emotionally mature, capable of building the relationships they truly want.
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Behind the scenes
Expertise and results
Dating Decoded combines certified coaching with academic training in psychology from Marconi University. Every programme is structured, evidence-informed and built around practice rather than theory.
More than 150 men have trained with us. They have overcome social insecurity, learned to hold a conversation and flirt naturally, and gained a far more sophisticated understanding of attraction. Many are now in the relationships they had long struggled to find.
Our philosophy
Success with women is not manipulation, memorised lines or pretending to be someone else. It comes from understanding human behaviour, self-respect, sharper social awareness and the ability to create genuine connection.
We don’t claim to speak for all women. We study relationship dynamics, listen to real experiences and apply psychological knowledge, and the female perspective in our work comes from a woman.
Is it for you?
It’s for you if…
- You’re tired of constantly adapting to every woman who comes into your life and still not getting results or the women you want. You want to know you took action to change your life and bring into it a woman you’re truly happy with.
- You see the men around you with a woman beside them and you want that too: dates that lead somewhere and interest that’s returned.
- You want to find the ideal woman who makes you happy now, not 10 or 20 years from now, or maybe never.
- You want practical steps and a clear structure, not more theory.
- You’re ready to act and to hear honest feedback.
- You’re open to learning, you can put your ego aside and you’re willing to change.
- You can commit to two calls a week for 3 months.
It’s not for you if…
- You’re willing to lose another 10 or 20 years and don’t want to reach your best self, the one who has the ideal woman for you.
- You’re willing to keep wasting money on pointless dates that lead nowhere, without fully understanding the women you’re dealing with.
- You want a shortcut or ready-made lines.
- You expect things to change without effort.
- You’re not willing to question yourself and what you believe.
FAQ
Frequently asked questions
What exactly is the mentoring?
Online mentoring that turns what you know into what you actually do. For 3 months you get two online calls a week, practical advice on your own situations and a clear next step after every call. We work on confidence, natural flirting and choosing the right person.
How many hours a week is it?
Two calls a week, up to an hour and a half each. That’s up to 3 hours a week working directly with your mentor, plus what you put into practice between calls.
How long does the mentoring last?
The mentoring lasts 3 months. During that time you have two calls a week, up to an hour and a half each.
What happens on the calls?
Every call is built around your week, not a prepared lecture:
- We go through what really happened: your conversations, messages and dates, including the moments you held back.
- You find out how you actually came across, and why it played out the way it did.
- We work out what to say and do next time, and practise it until it feels natural.
- You leave with one clear task, and the next call starts with how it went.
Is it one-to-one or in a group?
Both. One-to-one work is all about your situation, and in a group you also learn from what other men are going through.
Who is it for?
For adult men who want real change, not another theory, and are ready to act on what we work on together. It isn’t for anyone looking for memorised lines or ways to manipulate women.
Do I need any previous experience?
No. We start from where you are today, whether you freeze before saying hello, haven’t been on a date in years or keep losing touch after the first one.
How is it different from free advice online?
Free advice tells every man the same thing, and nobody checks whether you used it. Here we work on your real situations, and every call starts with how your last task went.
How soon will I see results?
That depends on where you start and how much you apply between calls, so we won’t promise a timeline. From the first week you’ll have a clear focus, honest feedback and a next step you can act on straight away.
How do I start?
Fill in the application and tell us where you’re stuck. It takes a few minutes. If we believe we can help you, we’ll call you. The call is free: we talk through your situation and tell you where to start.
One year from now
Imagine your life a year from today.
You took action
You’re with the woman of your dreams and you’re full of confidence. You took full accountability and acted for the life you wanted. Today you thank yourself for the biggest gift you ever gave yourself: becoming the best version of you.
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You stayed where you are
You’re stuck in the same place, still trying to figure everything out alone, with no guidance and no results. You keep wondering what would have happened if you’d taken action a year ago.
The year will pass either way. You choose today how it ends.
We work with men who want real change, not another theory. Apply, tell us where you’re stuck, and if we can help you, we’ll call you. The call is free.